What is therapy?

Suffering: The challenge of being

Life is composed of ongoing transitions, which can be bewildering, difficult and often painful. I am honored to work with folks as they grow, deepen and evolve their self-understanding. I am committed to accompanying you as we investigate the nature of suffering as it presents in your experience.

Cultivating greater awareness, emotional resilience and self-compassion begins with truly feeling your feelings–this is the challenge of being. As a trauma-informed therapist I prioritize safety and believe that the therapeutic relationship can clarify important underlying attachment patterns and serve as a place for experimentation and growth.

Cultivating self-compassion: Awareness and Curiosity

In therapy we may explore aliveness: how you first learned love, developed an identity, expressed boundaries and sought connection with others. Each of us is unique: in emotions, bodies and minds. Every person experiences the world through a singular lens. Our reality is profoundly shaped by the culture, class and family system in which we were born and raised. By patiently bringing curiosity to how you internally relate to yourself and the world at large, compassionate psychotherapy is an enlivening, pragmatic and liberatory practice.

Whole-hearted effort: Practice being human

There is nothing wrong with you, and you may want to make a few improvements (paraphrasing Zen teacher Suzuki Roshi). In therapy we honor your whole self; however complicated, confusing, wounded or hopeless that self may feel at times. In therapy everything is welcome: shame, confusion, sorrow, joy, bewilderment, grief, uncertainty. The whole spectrum of darkness and light are vital aspects of your incomparable humanity.

Services Offered

Healing one’s wounded parts begins by asking for help, making an ongoing commitment to show up for the work, and not feeling alone while carrying the weight of the world.

Individual Therapy

In therapy, I aim to co-create a space where all your different parts can be expressed and honored. Changing old patterns takes time and begins by first acknowledging fully where you are and how you got there. Therapy is a space to practice seeing yourself in new ways and accepting what you find. We’ll turn toward what is feeling blocked, practice acceptance and forgiveness, and identify resources to aid in internalizing new coping strategies.

Relationship Counseling

Intimate relationships (of any type) are where we act out our attachment styles and can see most clearly how our desire to be loved is complicated by our histories. My counseling aims to encourage seeing your relationship as a two-person (or more) system where each partner’s needs can be more clearly understood. In this empathic space, it’s possible to build more secure functioning and mutual respect for the rich differences that make you each unique.

I offer therapy in person at my San Francisco office or via telehealth.

507 Polk St, Ste 260, San Francisco, CA 94102

About Me

I am a son, oldest of three brothers, husband to a contemplative artist, raised by counterculture parents. I’ve tried many different pursuits, embodying different working class identities (organic farmer, Zen monk, prison and hospice volunteer, co-director of an arts community, carpenter, school tutor, mailman) and what I’ve always been most interested in are the big questions about meaning and how to live a full human life.

How can we experience love, harmony and beauty when there is so much confusion, stress and distraction? How can we be happy with ourselves when we have harsh inner critics? How do we navigate all the big changes: relationships, grief, conflict, sickness, aging and death?

I view compassionate psychotherapy as a relationship where we explore your life with empathy, patience and curiosity. I am deeply present with you as we endeavor to feel what it’s like to be you in all your complexity.

I show up as a collaborative fellow traveler, ready with clinical skills to co-create insights that you feel are a priority. I work through a present-moment somatic and transpersonal lens.

Folks are referred to me because of my genuine presence, humor and capacity for meeting people right where they are in their lives.

I have been a Buddhist meditator for over 25 years and believe in the wisdom of the body as a site of healing and self-knowledge. I have an abiding faith in each person’s integrity, wholeness, and basic goodness and have myself greatly benefited from the gifts of warm, encouraging therapy. I hope to pay the gift forward in this work.

Get Started

If you feel ready to begin exploring together in therapy, let’s get started.

We can discuss what you are seeking and I can answer questions that you may have.

I offer a free 15 minute phone consultation.

I look forward to hearing from you.

628-265-3290

qayyumjohnson@gmail.com

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